Pyrrhus, Greek king of antiquity, flung his troops against the legions of Rome for two straight days, determined to claim victory at any cost. Claim it he did, but not without first having sacrificed the lives of all of his men, his triumph thus tantamount to defeat. Though his name has become proverbial, the lesson contained therein is too often neglected by humanity. Looking round, you will see millions driven by the thirst to win, losing it all and then hoisting their flags over the ruins. In his column for The World, Tigran Keosayan draws a parallel with the equality of the sexes, in how this development has prevailed over love and marriage.
In the modern relationship between man and woman, this kind of mirror image has become the fashion. Unisex. The features of the sexes have been muddled to the point of complete obscurity.Fashion houses, both humble and mainstream, quickly got on board with the movement. It may seem, at first glance, that all of this came about suddenly, unexpectedly. But that’s not the case.
Concurrent with these developments was the popularisation of non-traditional love, namely the LGBT community. Its message was advocated with joy, with talent. Film and television presented feminism and tolerance of homosexuality as ideas that went hand in hand. At this point, keep in mind, we already see gays and lesbians filling lead roles in pop culture. Several highlyrated shows, “Orange is the New Black,” for instance, are built around this.
In this day and age, the most significant of social changes arrive undetected, emerging out of minute shifts in art, everyday life, and human interaction. You live among all of this without noticing. But, eventually, that which had previously gone unseen appears before a mirror, and you detect its reflection. It’s like “the vampire effect” in reverse — as per the legend, vampires are visible in the mirror’s reflection. In the modern relationship between man and woman, this kind of mirror image has become the fashion. Unisex. The features of the sexes have been muddled to the point of complete obscurity.
Consequently, new forms of marriages arose — guest marriages, arranged marriages, open marriages, and so on — by and large, all of which are, in actuality, legitimised forms of cheating.It has become evident that we all live in a new reality of militant feminism, equality of the sexes, and the erosion of marriage. After all, marriage has historically, for millennia, been an institution intended to protect women, to ensure their future, and to secure their health, along with that of their children. But, as women seamlessly have moved into their new status as equals, with talents and the ability to implement those talents, the issue of security has disappeared. Consequently, new forms of marriages arose — guest marriages, arranged marriages, open marriages, and so on — by and large, all of which are, in actuality, legitimised forms of cheating.
These new forms do not exclude or displace love, but love has lost its claim on childbirth. Moreover, nowadays children can be conceived without a man’s participation. You can do IVF from an anonymous donor, entirely avoiding physical contact with the man.
None of this would exist if not for the class, the cohort, the army of fully independent, amazing women who realised that they can do anything on their own. And this is one side of the trend towards unisex style.
There is another side to this as well. Men began to take the posture of “admire us, look how handsome we are.” The metrosexual emerged. It became unnecessary for men to prove their manhood and to be men in the traditional sense of the word.
For the first time ever, the competition among men and women in economics, politics, and social life began to take place more or less on equal terms. Globally, we have become more estranged, and fight more often than we cooperate, even in love affairs.
Eventually, we get what we get — proud, wonderful, wealthy women, working fourteen to sixteen hours a day, supporting themselves and their gigolo friends. Although lately, women have realised that they don’t need boy toys to feel ful- filled. Now, there is already a sec- ond generation of women; taking after their mums, they are entirely independent and are, on average, more stable than men. Now, there is already a second generation of women; taking after their moms, they are entirely independent and are, on average, more stable than men.
Sometime in the early ‘90s, precocious Russian millionaires, the masters of life, developed the habit of remarrying a new supermodel every three to five years. Today, this is considered tasteless. Now, it is prestigious to be married to the intelligent, not to the longlegged. If these intersect, it’s in Melania Trump.
How can a man win over a suc- cessful, self-fulfilled woman, who works fourteen-hour shifts, is able to do everything a man can, pro- fessionally and socially, and does not depend on a man to give birth to a child?
Men don’t know how, or what they have, to attract this type of woman. They can offer equal partnership, plus love and intimacy. But he also has to impress her and can’t seem like a loser; he can’t seem